Can we go to the Tip Shop?

One of my fondest childhood memories was going to the tip with my Dad on the weekend. I loved it because back in those days you were able to scavenge through the ‘rubbish’ and I would always without fail return with other people’s trash (which naturally become my treasure)!! It’s such a vivid memory and I’m certain that it is where my love for vintage treasures started. I’ve always been a collector, especially of second hard items; I love imagining the life certain objects might have had before me & who might have owned them.

Second hand objects always have a story to tell & as a storyteller I adore that.

I will be honest and say I also feel a bit like I reach ‘eco warrior status’ when I shop second hand shop.  Knowing that I’m the reducing landfill waste by giving objects another life in my home, fills me with a great sense of satisfaction.  Not only am I helping the environment by reducing waste; second hand shopping is also much cheaper… so I am helping my savings as well! #WinWin

 

I often feel so guilty when we go to the tip to drop off our garden waste and see good quality items being thrown into the massive skip bins and then being crushed by the machine. Whilst the kids love it when the machine is out, smashing TV’s and furniture, for me I just find it so wasteful. With de-cluttering and minimalism on the rise (yep we are all Marie Kondo bandwagon jumpers), I think it is really important to also think about where our ‘clutter’ and our unwanted pieces should go. To me there is no point in de-cluttering your life if you are just going to clutter up the world.  If you are a Brisbane local, the Brisbane City Council has recycle collection centres where you can drop off all your usable items (furniture, clothes, home wares etc) to.

A few weekends ago was a motherhood milestone moment for me, as I was able to recreate my own fond childhood memory of ‘tip shopping’ with Isla at the Brisbane City Council’s The Southside Tip Shop.  I’m also hoping that I’ve inspired Isla to love second hand shopping as much as I do!

 

Isla and I picked up some silverware cutlery, embroidered doilies, a basket, a toy ornament teddy for Isla and truck for Oliver and two made in Australia cups for the bargain price of $12!!

I can honestly say I have been second hand shopping for over thirty years and the best tip I have is to arrive early, when the store opens (8am for The SouthSide Tip Shop); otherwise all the bargains will be snapped up by others.  I also think it is easy to be overwhelmed by second hand stores as there really are a lot of items! It’s so important to go in with an open mind and not be searching for something in particular. On the weekend I knew I wanted to get some items for food styling, but I didn’t have anything specific in mind; which made everything I found seem like a bonus!

 

Do you love finding a bargain? What’s your favourite item you have bought second hand?

Emmy Xx

 

This post was written in collaboration with Brisbane City Council, all opinions are the authors own.

GIRL 

unspecifiedI’ve been really open with my current struggle about ‘no more babies’. My battle between feeling incredible selfish that ‘wait Em, you already have two beautiful children think of how lucky you are’ vs the notion that there would be more babies. Dealing with the mourning period of no more babies; but more than that; dealing with fact that this decision has been made for me. That it is actually out of my control.

I’ve made a real breakthrough these past few weeks. Now instead of breaking down into a blubbering mess everytime I see a newborn babe in public, (don’t get me wrong I still feel like my ovaries are exploding) but I’m smiling instead of crying. This is good for many reasons, mostly just that now I don’t look like a crazy lady crying in public for no apparent reason. It means I am healing.

Also instead of grieving the fact that Isla is growing up so fast; (let’s be honest she is really a toddler now, not a baby) I’m learning to be really mindful of our time together. I’m rejoicing in watching her learn new words & start becoming independent. Enjoying every last moment of breastfeeding, in case it is the last feed. It’s so beautiful to be present in this moment of motherhood. There are still days when I do feel like everything is on top of me and I have no idea what I am doing; but I’m truly trying & enjoying mindful motherhood.

Today we had our Friday morning mama + daughter coffee date; it was bliss.

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Isla, I watched you walk all by yourself to the coffee shop. So proud, not wanting any help or to hold my hand. My heart is filled with pure love knowing that even though you won’t always need me; I’ll always be here, by your side waiting to hold your hand if you ever need.

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My darling Isla you are growing everyday into the most beautiful little girl, but don’t forget my sweetheart you’ll always be my baby girl; even when your running the world.

 

Sunday Mama Musings

Sometimes it is easy to forgot all the little ‘dates’ I had with Oliver when it was just me and him. Twenty months of just us dates. Park dates. Yoga dates. Pilates dates. Mumfit dates. Swimming dates? Oh and my favourite – Coffee dates. It’s easy to forget the ease at which popping out was with just one. I mean I think I could do it with my eyes closed now.

The transition from one to two in some senses really isn’t any more challenging, it’s just double and everything just takes longer. [In other senses it is definetly way more challenging].  Especially getting ready in the morning. Breakfast, getting dressed, packing lunches and then getting in the car! When we are all in the car, seat belts on I sometimes imagine the  sound affect of a filled theatre applauding me. I mean it is an achievement! Right?

One of the greatest challenges I have faced in becoming a mother of two beautiful children is having that quality one on one time with them. I feel sad sometimes that I don’t get that time just me and Isla.  Then also since having Isla I often have to say to Oliver, ‘Wait please Ollie, mummy is feeding Isla,’ or ‘Just wait a minute I’m changing Isla’s nappy.’ Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if he started saying to me ‘wait please mummy.’ And then sometimes if I am taking Ollie out of his highchair or playing with him in his mini pool and Isla starts crying she has to wait. There is a lot of waiting going on here ATM!

I have been making more of an effort to spend one on one time with both Oliver and Isla. Making the most of those times when they play sleep tag. Sometimes we’ve gone on a little coffee date or gone on adventures around the house. Sometimes it is only a quick five minutes but I have really noticed a difference in the quality of our connection and in lowering my own ‘mum guilt levels.’

A few of my favourite snaps from these last few weeks. Backpacking around the house with bee and torch. Coffee dates while Isla slept looking for trucks and smelling flowers. And then some just mama and Isla time eating delicious food and making everyone in New Farm smile.

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Anyone have any tips on spending quality time with your darlings?

XxX

Milk is Milk

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I adore this photo of Isla breastfeeding.

To me it is precious. A moment in time captured that I will always remember.

When the human body works isn’t it amazing?

It is heartbreaking and emotionally something I am not ready to deal with knowing that in the past few weeks Isla hasn’t put on any weight. In fact she has lost weight. It smashes me to my very core knowing that perhaps my milk supply has dropped. That maybe she hasn’t been getting enough milk that maybe she is failing to thrive. [Insert saddest emoji face ever].

Whatever happens I know it will be okay. Isla’s health and growth is most important; rationally I know it doesn’t matter if she has breast-milk or formula. Milk is milk. However emotionally I can not process this concept. The thought of having to stop breast feeding Isla…ah it gets me right in the gut. Gosh it is more than mum guilt. It is gut wrenching. Heartbreaking. Curl up in a ball, sit in a corner rocking side to side, emotionally hardcore.

Breathe.

For now I am just going to enjoy every breastfeed, have skin-to-skin and snuggle my beautiful little babe Isla.

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Aside – I know that everybody is different and individual this is just my journey.

Always with love

Emmy

#mymotherhoodrocks