Sometimes it is easy to forgot all the little ‘dates’ I had with Oliver when it was just me and him. Twenty months of just us dates. Park dates. Yoga dates. Pilates dates. Mumfit dates. Swimming dates? Oh and my favourite – Coffee dates. It’s easy to forget the ease at which popping out was with just one. I mean I think I could do it with my eyes closed now.
The transition from one to two in some senses really isn’t any more challenging, it’s just double and everything just takes longer. [In other senses it is definetly way more challenging]. Especially getting ready in the morning. Breakfast, getting dressed, packing lunches and then getting in the car! When we are all in the car, seat belts on I sometimes imagine the sound affect of a filled theatre applauding me. I mean it is an achievement! Right?
One of the greatest challenges I have faced in becoming a mother of two beautiful children is having that quality one on one time with them. I feel sad sometimes that I don’t get that time just me and Isla. Then also since having Isla I often have to say to Oliver, ‘Wait please Ollie, mummy is feeding Isla,’ or ‘Just wait a minute I’m changing Isla’s nappy.’ Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if he started saying to me ‘wait please mummy.’ And then sometimes if I am taking Ollie out of his highchair or playing with him in his mini pool and Isla starts crying she has to wait. There is a lot of waiting going on here ATM!
I have been making more of an effort to spend one on one time with both Oliver and Isla. Making the most of those times when they play sleep tag. Sometimes we’ve gone on a little coffee date or gone on adventures around the house. Sometimes it is only a quick five minutes but I have really noticed a difference in the quality of our connection and in lowering my own ‘mum guilt levels.’
A few of my favourite snaps from these last few weeks. Backpacking around the house with bee and torch. Coffee dates while Isla slept looking for trucks and smelling flowers. And then some just mama and Isla time eating delicious food and making everyone in New Farm smile.
Anyone have any tips on spending quality time with your darlings?